Parent/Player Corner

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Parent/Player Corner 2017-03-21T22:37:30+00:00


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BUSC strives to provide a current and informative website as it’s primary means for communicating information about the league, policies, schedules, scores, tournaments, field and weather status, and current activities affecting BUSC players and parents.  We highly encourage you to regularly visit:

In addition, you may contact our office via regular mail or phone for routine matters. For more immediate issues, contact your Coach, Age Group Coordinator, or BUSC Board members

Address: 275 Rose Ave, Suite 209, Pleasanton, CA 94566
Phone: 925-463-6313


BUSC has two Divisions to reflect the different skills and desires of recreational and competitive players.

COMPETITIVE Individual placements Within 1 week after placements
RECREATIONAL Neighborhood school and previous year’s ratings (U-9 and above only) By end of July


If your son is in the Under-8 age group or older and desires to be considered for a competitive team, please check the placement dates and location. Your son should attend placement days if you feel that he has the ability or has shown the ability to play at the competitive level. A good barometer over the past few years is if your son’s skill was in the top half of his team or if your son has expressed a desire to play competitive soccer. If so he should attend placement days.


Uniforms are provided to all players in the recreational division only as part of club registration.  In our U8 competitive academy program, players are provided uniforms as part of the club registration process. In the U9 and above competitive age groups, players are required to purchase a home/away uniform.  These age groups are also provided 1 pair of training shorts and t-shirt as part of the club registration. All Parents at all ages and levels of play are responsible for providing appropriate footgear, soccer ball, and shin guards.


Refunds will be granted for recreational registered players for any reason if requested and received by Opening Day.  A $20 service fee will be withheld for refunds requested by June 30. A $50 service fee will be withheld for refunds requested between July 1st and Opening Day.

All requests for refunds must be submitted in writing or by email.  After opening day, no refunds will be granted for any reason.


Recreational team training (practice) generally begins after team notification and usually within the first couple of weeks of August.  Competitive team training for Academy, Premier, Elite teams begin usually within 1-2 weeks of the team being formed. Competitive team training for Select & Advanced team begins usually around the middle of July. The recreational playing season runs from the beginning of September to early November.


BUSC has one of the most comprehensive youth soccer training programs in Northern California. BUSC training starts with our U-5 through U-8 recreational programs. The emphasis is on providing a FUN environment where the players learn soccer techniques (individual skills) through exercises and small-sided games coached and officiated by parent volunteers.  Each team will have one scheduled practice a week with Saturday games.

Coach volunteers receive a BUSC coaching curriculum designed specifically for the age group he or she is coaching.  The curriculum is a comprehensive document that includes all information necessary to coach and teach the U5-U8 players from the beginning through the completion of the season.  The curriculum includes weekly training sessions and age appropriate exercises to teach the players in the BUSC way.


The Ballistic United Soccer Club serves our players through the involvement and dedication of volunteers. We are continuously in need of volunteer assistance throughout most of the year to support league and team needs In order to fulfill this need, we require that each family of age groups U8 and older sign up for a specific volunteer activity and pay a $50.00 volunteer fee, per child, to the club at registration. This fee will be reimbursed after the volunteer commitment has been completed.


Each age group is assigned an Age Group Coordinator (AGC) who serves as a staff member of the Registrar. The AGC formulates teams, handles late registration, helps find coaches, and assigns new players to teams during the season. If you would like to coach, referee, volunteer your time to the club or have any questions, please e-mail your Age Group Coordinator or Director of Play. BUSC needs your help.

See our Age Group Coordinator page for a list of the current Age Group Coordinators.


Please see our Board of Directors Page to view the list of our current board & staff members

Parent’s Responsibility

It is the parents’ responsibility to monitor their child’s soccer experience. Parents who feel their child is not being treated fairly or in a positive manner by a coach should first make an effort to discuss the problem with the coach as soon as possible. This should be done by telephone or perhaps after a practice but never before or during a game. If the problem is not resolved after discussion with the coach then the parent may call the appropriate Age-Group Coordinator for further assistance. The Age-Group Coordinator and Directors of Play will work with the Coaches to resolve the more serious problems.


Providing a core of well trained, certified referees for 160+ (Under-10 through Under-19) Al Caffodio, Advanced and House teams is a tremendous task. The referee organization in BUSC represents over 200 dedicated youths and adults who are on the field during games to provide safety and fairness for our teams. Referee coordinators work diligently all season long to provide coverage for the high volume of games that are played.

We parents and coaches need to keep in mind how difficult it is to be a referee, especially if you are young. We lose many referees every year because of the harassment they receive from coaches and parents. Last season we lost new referees after the first few games because of this.

The role of referee must be recognized and respected by the coach, the team and the parents. Youth referees must be given the same respect as the adult referees. The referee in a soccer match has complete authority over players and coaches from the moment that the referee enters the grounds to the time the referee leaves.

° Derogatory remarks or gestures to a referee or parent official are not allowed.

° Coaches may be penalized for inappropriate behavior by parents, players, or spectators.

Like all of us, referees will make mistakes. You are entitled to be disappointed when you think the referee is doing a poor job, but don’t let these feelings interfere with the game. It is the coach’s responsibility to contact the Director of Referees if he or she feels a referee needs to improve on skills.

Some points to remember:

1. Referees are in charge of the game. Their decisions are final.

2. Arguing with referees is not acceptable–Do not harass them.
3. Their contribution is vital to our League.
4. Continual arguing with referees can result in disciplinary action.



Parents, spectators, coaches, and referees have responsibilities and obligations to keep our soccer program a fun sport for all. With this in mind, please observe the following:

· Cheer positively for the things you like and encourage your team. Have fun! Never put down the other team or any of the players on either team. Please leave any sideline coaching to the coach. Spectators frequently yell instructions to the players – these instructions often contradict those of the coach and only confuse the players.

· Our referees, like all BUSC officials, are volunteers, not professionals. While their decisions may not always be agreeable to all participants and spectators, they are final. No useful purpose is served by shouting disagreement or derogatory remarks. Referees can caution players (showing a yellow card) and dismiss players from the game (showing a red card) for misconduct. Referees can also caution and dismiss coaches, and can even terminate the game. Deliberate fouls, or abusive words and disrespect on the part of players, coaches, or spectators can lead to these actions. Every year we have many new referees and coaches. Each is volunteering to do a difficult job, and mistakes inevitably occur. Heckling the referees or the coach is totally unwarranted. Serious problems involving coaches or referees should be brought to the attention of a BUSC Director of Play after the game.

· For the safety of all, coaches and spectators must stand at least 1 yard from the sideline. No one is allowed behind the goal or within 18 yards of the goal line on either side of the field. Coaches and referees are asked to enforce this condition.

· No smoking or alcoholic beverages are allowed at games or practices.

· All players in the Class IV divisions present and in proper uniform at the start of the game play at least half of the game. If a player cannot play for a health reason, or is under suspension, he should not wear a uniform to the field. It is our responsibility to encourage everyone to use these facilities properly and to keep the fields clean and free from litter. If you see anyone misusing the facilities (climbing fences, throwing litter on the field, etc.), please bring the matter to the attention of a coach, referee, or BUSC official.



As a parent, you play a special role in contributing to the needs and development of youngsters.

Through your encouragement and good example, you can help assure that all the boys learn good sportsmanship and self-discipline. In team sports, young people learn to work together, to sacrifice for the good of the team, to enjoy winning and deal appropriately with defeat – all while becoming physically fit and healthy. Best of all, they have fun.


Supporting your child by giving encouragement and showing interest in their team is very important.

Help your child work toward skill improvement and good sportsmanship in every game. Teach your child that hard work and an honest effort are often more important than victory – that way your child will always be a winner despite the outcome of the game!


Parents serve as role models for their children. Become aware of this and work to be a positive role model. Applaud good plays by your child’s team as well as good plays by the opposing team.

Support all efforts to remove verbal and physical abuse from youth sports activities.


Remember that your child is the one playing soccer, not you. It’s very important to let children establish their own goals – to play the game for themselves. Take care not to impose your own standards and goals on them.

Don’t put too heavy a burden on your child to win games. Surveys reveal that 72% of children would rather play for a losing team than ride the bench for a winning team.

Children play for the fun of playing.


Positive reinforcement is the best way to help your child achieve their goals and their natural fear of failure. Nobody likes to make mistakes. If your child does make one, remember it’s all part of learning, so encourage your child’s efforts and point out the good things your child accomplished.


Coaches and referees are usually parents just like you. They volunteer their times to help make your child’s youth soccer experience a positive one. They need your support too.

That means refraining from coaching or refereeing from the sidelines. As a volunteer organization, there’s usually always an opportunity for you to take your interest in coaching or refereeing to the next level and become one yourself!
Parental Support – The Key to Peak Performance

The role that parents play in the life of a soccer player has a tremendous impact on their experience. With this in mind, we have taken some time to write down some helpful reminders for all of us as we approach the upcoming season. If you should have any questions about these thoughts, please feel free to discuss it with coaches, or any member of the BUSC organization

Let the coaches’ coach: Leave the coaching to the coaches. This includes motivating, psyching your child for practice, after game critiquing, setting goals, requiring additional training, etc. You have entrusted the care of your player to these coaches and they need to be free to do their job. If a player has too many coaches, it is confusing for him and his performance usually declines.

Support the program: Get involved. Volunteer. Help out with fundraisers, car-pool; anything to support the program.

Be you child’s best fan: Support your child unconditionally. Do not withdraw love when your child performs poorly. Your child should never have to perform to win your love.

Support and root for all players on the team: Foster teamwork. Your child’s teammates are not the enemy. When they are playing better than your child, your child now has a wonderful opportunity to learn.

Do not bribe or offer incentives: Your job is not to motivate. Leave this to the coaching staff. Bribes will distract your child from properly concentrating in practice and game situations.

Encourage your child to talk with the coaches: If your child is having difficulties in practice or games, or can’t make a practice, etc., encourage them to speak directly to the coaches. This “responsibility taking” is a big part of becoming a big-time player. By handling the off-field tasks, your child is claiming ownership of all aspects of the game – preparation for as well as playing the game.

Understand and display appropriate game behavior: Remember, your child’s self esteem and game performance is at stake. Be supportive, cheer, and be appropriate. To perform to the best of his abilities, a player needs to focus on the parts of the game that they can control (his fitness, positioning, decision making, skill, aggressiveness, what the game is presenting them). If he starts focusing on what he cannot control (the condition of the field, the referee, the weather, the opponent, even the outcome of the game at times), he will not play up to his ability. If he hears a lot of people telling him what to do, or yelling at the referee, it diverts his attention away from the task at hand.

Monitor your child’s stress level at home: Keep an eye on the player to make sure that they are handling stress effectively from the various activities in his life.

Monitor eating and sleeping habits: Be sure your child is eating the proper foods and getting adequate rest.

Help your child keep his priorities straight: Help your child maintain a focus on schoolwork, relationships and the other things in life beside soccer. Also, if your child has made a commitment to soccer, help him fulfill his obligation to the team.

Reality test: If your child has come off the field when his team has lost, but he has played his best, help him to see this as a “win”. Remind him that he is to focus on “process” and not “results”. His fun and satisfaction should be derived from “striving to win”. Conversely, he should be as satisfied from success that occurs despite inadequate preparation and performance.

Keep soccer in its proper perspective: Soccer should not be larger than life for you. If your child’s performance produces strong emotions in you, suppress them. Remember your relationship will continue with your children long after their competitive soccer days are over. Keep your goals and needs separate from your child’s experience.

Have fun: That is what we will be trying to do! We will try to challenge your child to reach past their “comfort level” and improve themselves as a player, and thus, a person. We will attempt to do this in environments that are fun, yet challenging.

Please fill out the volunteer form below. Your request will go directly to the BUSC Volunteer coordinator.

If you have questions, please e-mail the BUSC Volunteer Coordinator if you would like to work and receive your Volunteer Fee back.

Volunteer Sign Up Form

  • Positions Qualifying for Reimbursement: Please read the details for the BUSC Volunteer Program The Volunteer jobs listed below are examples, which benefit the Ballistic United Soccer Club, and not an individual team.
  • You may also choose not to volunteer and to donate your $50.00 Volunteer deposit; but we certainly hope that you choose to provide your assistance to the club. It can be fun!

    To qualify for reimbursement, our BUSC Volunteers are required to provide a minimum of four (4) hours of service to the club. More is always appreciated.
  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.